27 Jun 2017

How to Adapt and Make it Work When Moving in with Someone Else



Has the time come for you to move in with another person? Maybe you want to live centrally in your city but need to share the financial burden with a friend to make it happen. Or perhaps your relationship has now reached the stage where you need to get together and live in the same space. 

Although those two scenarios might seem very distinct from one another, they’re not all that different. The rules on how to adapt and make it work are pretty much the same for both. So, if you want to make sure that this whole plan doesn’t get derailed anytime soon, here are the things that you need to know.

Make Sure You’re on the Same Page from Day One

You need to be on roughly the same page as the other person if you want this new living arrangement to work out well. Of course, you’re not going to agree on everything, but you will want to make sure that you want basically the same things as one another from the arrangement going forward. When there is some kind of consensus in place, it gives you a strong basis for the arrangement, and you will be much more likely to make it work in the long-term. That has to be a good thing for you both.

Buy Furniture Together

When it comes to buying things for the home, this is something that should always be done together. If you are able to shop for things together, you will be able to make sure that decisions aren’t made that one person hates. You’ll be able to compromise in order to reach a solution that works for everyone. That’s the way it should be, and that’s what you can make happen if you put in the effort. So, when you head to Richard Haworth to look for furnishings, browse together. Your tastes might overlap more than you realise.

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Accept That Not Every Decision is Going to go Your Way

You’re not going to find that everything goes your way when you’re making decisions regarding the home in your new house or flat. In fact, it’s important to concede some ground and lose some battles. That’s just the way it has to be if you want the arrangement to be fair. It’s all about give and take. This might sound like an old cliche, but it really is important. It’s just as important as anything else, and you won’t be able to make it work unless everyone gets their way on key decisions from time to time.

Come Clean About Financial Problems

If there are any financial difficulties you’re having, it’s definitely worth pointing these out and making sure that the person you're moving in with understands them. After all, if you're going to be contributing to the rent or the mortgage, it’s only right that the other person knows about any problems that might arise. Financial issues do matter, even if they can be difficult to discuss openly at times. Talking about these issues is just a part of being open and honesty, and those things really are important.

Make Sure Everyone Has Their Own Space

Everyone should have a space in the home that is theirs. This sounds simple enough, and that’s because it is. When everyone has a space that they can retreat to for their alone time, it stops tensions bubbling over and resulting in arguments. That has to be a good thing, so ensure that everyone in the home has some privacy when they need it. This won’t seem like a big deal when everything's going fine. But there will be times when things are not going so well and one of you just wants to get away from it all in order to cool down.

Put Bathroom Rules in Place

The bathroom is the room that causes the biggest arguments between people when they are living together. Whether it’s failing to clean the bath or leaving the seat up, there are so many bathroom habits that can leave other people annoyed and pretty disgusted. That’s why you should put some basic bathroom rules in place that each of you has to follow. This stops anyone getting annoyed about what the other person is doing. The rules don’t have to be in any way complicated. They just need to cover the basic things that matter most.

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Make it Clear How the Chores Are Going to be Divided Up

Handling chores can be one of the trickiest things of all to deal with. Clarity is key if you want to make it work. You need to be clear with one another about what you expect from the other person and how you want them to handle their responsibilities. If no one knows which chores and tasks they’re expected to do, then it’ll be no surprise when things don’t exactly go swimmingly for you. Talk to each other about which chores each of you prefers. And the chores that neither of you wants to do should be divided randomly. Just make it fair and clear.

Create Social Time When Other People Can Come Over

It can be very easy for you and the person you move in with to become too familiar with one another. When that happens, you can start to get bored, and you might even just begin to annoy each other. That’s the last thing you want to happen because you’re going to be living with these people for the foreseeable future. You should make sure that other people come around often. Making your home a social hub for friends can bring other people into the mix and stop the two of you feeling like you’re trapped with one another. It really can help a lot.




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Each of the tips discussed above will help you to make sure that when you move in with someone else, whether it’s a close friend or partner, everything will go smoothly. So, don’t ignore any of them.



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  1. It's such a big step, moving in with someone isn't it!! Some good tips there. And I agree, definitely compromise as much as poss :)

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